For much of my life, I was ashamed of my sensitive and introverted nature.
I was easily affected by things; I didn’t seem to be able to ‘cope’ with as much as other people around me could; I often felt a sense of sadness and disconnection in normal everyday situations; and I wore my heart 100% on my sleeve, unable to mask my emotion very well.
I have been told that I am ‘too sensitive’, ‘too emotional’, ‘low energy’, and ‘anxious and overwhelmed’.
For years, I wondered, why am I like this?
I did everything I could to just be ‘normal’ and fit in. I pushed myself hard to be able to live / do / be what I observed in other people. I thought I was so ‘weak’.
Until, eventually – probably in about my mid-20s, I couldn’t handle my own inauthenticity.
I was pretending to be a person who I wasn’t; I was doing things I didn’t want to be doing to ‘keep the peace’; I was ignoring my own nature, my own soul, in order to avoid being labelled in a certain way. I was totally burnt out.
I couldn’t live like that anymore. It was so exhausting trying to be something I wasn’t!
So I started to change (or, rather, I stopped trying to change myself!!).
I sought the help of trusted practitioners who helped bring out all the hidden aspects of myself (and own them!).
I became more selective about who I opened up to in my life (because, I didn’t need the opinions anymore).
I started a dedicated yoga practice, which was a soothing balm to the part of me that was so longing for a connection to something deeper. I learnt to say no, to be ok with people not liking me, to have stronger boundaries (I’m still working on that).
I started writing as a form of self-expression, and found that many people resonated with what I had to say.
I stepped into my true and authentic self – and yes, she is sensitive, introverted, and will show her heart to the world.
I have always been that way, and I will always be this way.
And – I actually wouldn’t want to be any other way … because this is who I am.
Why would I try to be someone I’m not??
And so, rather than fight with my inherent nature, I nurture it. I now use it to my own advantage – and to the advantage of others.
Because I have realised, that when I give myself permission to be this way, I give other people permission to be this way as well.
I am absolutely certain that there are many people out there doing what I used to do – hiding their true self out of fear of judgement.
I know this, because I work with women who do this, and I observe it in my personal life as well.
So many of us are out there in the world, not being who we truly are, trying to be something different, then wondering why we feel sad, disconnected, and misunderstood.
If this is you, begin by giving yourself the permission to be truly you. Really, truly, 100% YOU.
Everything changes when you do this.
You start to attract and call in the people who you need to support you in being your true self. People that you no longer need will drift away. You start to feel authentic, free, and confident that you are enough, exactly as you are.
If you are a sensitive soul who feels things deeply – I see you, I hear you, I feel you. Really, I do.
Be proud of who you are.
Your sensitivity is an asset. Feeling things deeply makes you empathetic. And really …. who cares? Who cares if you are like this? We are all different. We are all just perfect, the way we are.
Vulnerability is a huge strength.
It takes a massive amount of courage to be truly vulnerable, to be real, even in the face of potential judgement. Vulnerability lets all the good stuff in. I truly believe this.
I believe that my ability to bare my heart – to anyone – is something that will continue to get me places in life.
Because, at the end of the day – we ALL want to be seen, heard, and loved, exactly as we are. When we are REAL, we give people the opportunity to also be real. To be authentic. To be who they were born to be. How refreshing!
I also strongly believe that denial of one’s sensitivity is a big reason why many women end up so burnt out.
We don’t respect our innate need for rest, downtime, emotional connection, self-expression.
We live in a completely masculine energy, trying to hold everything together, constantly stuffing our emotions down … and then we end up falling apart at the seams (even when we’re putting on a brave face for the world!).
We’ve been taught that slowing down and listening to our soul, our intuition, our emotions, is a weakness. But it is absolutely not.
Don’t deny what you feel – let it out. In order to heal it, you have to feel it!
Lovely ladies – if any of this resonates – why not try doing life a little differently?
What do you have to lose?
Step into being who you really are, and be PROUD of it – because you are magnificent.
All LOVE –
Naturopath / Women’s Life Coach
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