Collectively, women are having a harder time than ever before with their health (myself included).
For so many of us, every day feels like a constant struggle to just ‘get everything done’ – an endeavour that, unfortunately, always seems to come before our own wellbeing.
Even if we are aware of our need to nourish and nurture ourselves, it’s still a battle to actually do it.
We modern women are bright, ambitious, and ready to take on the world. We’re starting businesses, succeeding in jobs, maintaining these amazing social circles, having babies, simply just performing in every aspect of our lives.
Women are ‘making it happen’, you might say. But, the price is huge. So many of us have sacrificed our health to do this, and it simply has to stop.
There must be a better way.
Working with female clients has been an eye-opening experience for me. I can honestly say that I’ve never seen one female client that hasn’t presented with signs and symptoms of hormonal imbalance – and it’s often deep-seated, at that.
For so many women, naturopathy (or other natural therapies) are a last resort, an attempt to recover the good health they had before they ‘took on the world’.
Our wellbeing has fallen to the wayside – WAY to the wayside – in an attempt to meet the expectations placed on us by society, by family, by friends, but most of all – by our very selves.
We are harder on ourselves, than anyone else ever is.
We must acknowledge this.
It’s the warrior mentality, the pressure we put on ourselves to be perfect. To perform.
The very root of this is within our own perception. We perceive that ‘success’ is defined by a life that looks totally perfect from the outside. And we forget that it’s what’s on the inside, that really counts.
Our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing are our true success.
How you feel about your life, in your body, means everything. How it looks from the outside, means nothing.
That brave mask that we show the world, even when we’re falling apart inside? That can’t last forever.
Day after day, I observe women from all different parts of my life chasing their ‘success’, and getting it.
But looking through that, I can see the deep depletion, the strain of striving, the weariness.
I can see the signs and symptoms of hormonal imbalances, the telltale signs that let me know that, in fact, something is awry.
No rest for the wicked.
Intelligent people don’t need sleep.
Rest is a waste of precious time.
You can get a pill to fix that.
These are just a few of the ideas modern society has driven into us.
We live in a world where taking time for ourselves, taking care of ourselves, is seen as a weakness. A world where we literally have to fall to pieces before we stop.
I’m affected by this every single day, as well. The tug of war between wanting to move forward in various aspects of my life, and my deep need for self-care. The balance between ‘doing’ and ‘being’. I sometimes get the balance right. Sometimes.
At the moment, I’m tipped towards ‘doing’. It’s been that way for a while now, and I can feel it. I can feel my entire being – my physical signs and symptoms, my emotions, my intuition – telling me that if I don’t pull back, something will eventually have to give.
Can you feel that, too?
This brings me to address something that I constantly talk about: hormones.
As women, our wellbeing is a direct reflection of our hormonal status.
And, our hormonal status is a direct reflection of how much we’re nourishing ourselves (or allowing ourselves to receive nourishment from others).
Our hormones are the foundation of everything. Unfortunately, the chronic constancy of the the stress and pressure that we live with, is ruining our hormonal balance. Which, in turn, is affecting our digestion, our immunity, our skin, our fertility, our mood, our ability to avoid chronic disease, our blood pressure, our blood sugar balance, our EVERYTHING.
But most of all, it’s affecting the way we feel, on a day to day basis.
It’s unacceptable to me that, as a collective, women seem to be having such a hard time. Something needs to change. Our bodies, minds and souls are communicating it to us, loud and clear.
As one of my most revered women’s health experts, Libby Weaver, once said, ‘It is time for the dawning of a new era for women. It has to be’.
It has to be.
Again: There must be a better way.
There must be a better way than the way we’re currently doing it. Because the way we’re currently doing it? It’s unsustainable, and it’s causing us to fall apart at the seams, little by little.
One thing that I do know for sure?
That the choice to get better, to feel well again, to be able to really thrive … it’s an internal one. It’s a choice to change, so that you can experience your life differently. It’s a choice to honour YOURSELF, and what you know you need, above anything else.
Because, this is YOUR life.
Your friends, your family, your children, your husband, your colleagues, your employees – they don’t thrive unless you do, FIRST. Your experience with them, is a direct reflection of your own internal state.
Dedicate the same amount of love, care and attention to yourself, and your health, as you do to all these other people, and watch your entire experience of life change for the better. It will happen.
So … seek the help you know you need.
Delegate. Do less. Address your health picture in a long-term, sustainable way.
It all starts with be vulnerable enough to admit that maybe, you’re just not doing so great right now.
The time to ‘fix yourself’, is not ‘sometime in the future’. It’s NOW. None of us know what tomorrow will bring. NOW is the time for the revolution that women need.
And it all starts with a choice.
Don’t wait for permission.
Give it to yourself.
Maybe you feel absolutely great, and nothing needs to change for you. Fantastic!! Keep on going – obviously you’ve found your own personal holy grail of true wellbeing.
But, so many of the women who surround me aren’t there yet.
Are you perhaps one of them?
I can help you with that.
Come on over to find out how we can work together.
I’m so determined to challenge the idea that we just have to ‘push through’ our health problems, our burn out, and our exhaustion.
I’m determined to help women find a better way to live.
Because, believe it or not, great health and ‘success’ are NOT mutually exclusive. We CAN have it all … we just need to do it all a little differently.
To your greatest health, wellness, and life,
Naturopath / Women’s Life Coach // Melbourne, Australia / Skype
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I work as a Naturopath + Life Coach in Melbourne, Australia, and via Skype.
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